To mask or not to mask, that is the question.

For those who live with anxiety, are neurodivergent, or feel the weight of societal expectations, ‘masking’ can feel like a shield. It’s the act of blending in, suppressing the parts of oneself that feel too ‘different’ or ‘much’ in order to fit a mould.

Masking can be a survival tool, a way to navigate environments where we fear rejection or misunderstanding. It can give us temporary relief: “If I just act like everyone else, I’ll feel safe.” And, our nervous system spends a lot of time looking for signals in our environment that tell us it is safe. Masking can also be exhausting, alienating, and denying our most authentic selves. Over time, it chips away at authenticity, leaving us wondering: Who am I beneath the mask?

Courage lies in the balance.

It takes bravery to choose when to mask and when to let our authentic selves shine through. Sometimes, masking feels necessary to get through a meeting or a social gathering. Other times, removing the mask is a profound act of self-love and connection. It’s when we say, “This is me – quirky, creative, raw, real, and human.”

The question isn’t always ‘to mask or not to mask,’ but rather, how can we create compassionate spaces where masking is unnecessary? How can we embrace empathy and celebrate authenticity in a way that allows everyone to feel safe being themselves?

Recognise the Reason Behind the Mask

Understand that masking is often a survival strategy. Instead of questioning someone’s authenticity, ask yourself what pressures or expectations might lead them to mask. Empathy starts with seeing beyond the surface.

Normalise Honest Conversations

Encourage open dialogue about mental health, neurodiversity, and the weight of societal expectations. When we talk openly about these challenges, we reduce the stigma that forces many to mask in the first place.

Create Safe Spaces

Whether in the workplace, social settings, or even at home, work to create environments where people feel valued for who they are, not how well they conform. It could mean championing inclusivity, being patient with communication styles, or letting people be themselves without judgment.

Model Authenticity Yourself

Be willing to share your imperfections and vulnerabilities. When you lead by example, you inspire others to embrace their authentic selves, too.

We can create a world where masking isn’t a necessity but a choice, where people are free to live authentically without fear of rejection or judgment.  Authenticity may be messy sometimes, but it’s also brave, powerful, human, and worth celebrating.