Confidence in the Unknown: How to Show Up Despite the Fear
Facing the unknown can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s a big presentation, an important life milestone, or simply being in the spotlight, these moments can shake even the most confident among us. It’s important to remember: you’re not broken, you’re human.
But here’s the truth:
Confidence isn’t about certainty.
Many people focus on the how – the techniques for speaking, the posture, the delivery. And those are crucial! However, confidence is also rooted in emotional awareness. It’s about understanding why you feel nervous, how your body reacts, and why the unknown triggers fear. Once you have a better understanding of your emotions, you can manage your energy, both mental and physical, and show up with a grounded, focused presence.
This holistic approach helps you build a more resilient foundation for confidence that goes beyond just “getting through” the moment. When you are aware of your emotional and physical state, you can tap into your natural energy reserves, allowing you to stay focused and perform at your best, no matter how you feel inside.
4 Ways to Honour Your Bravery in the Unknown
Over the years, I’ve worked with people navigating high-stakes moments in their lives – from weddings to boardrooms, literary festivals to music concerts, and even difficult conversations. What I’ve observed is that, no matter how challenging the situation, just showing up is an act of courage.
Here are four practical ways you can honour your bravery and manage the energy and emotions in the unknown:
Focus on What You Can Control
When everything feels uncertain, it’s helpful to focus on what’s within your control. This could be your breath, your posture, and your mindset. These simple, grounding tools help you regain a sense of calm and focus.
Recognise That You’re Already Being Brave
Showing up, even with fear, is an act of bravery. Often, we get caught up in waiting for the fear to disappear before we take action, but the reality is, bravery is about acting despite the fear. Just by showing up, you’ve already taken an important step.
Visualise the Feeling You Want After the Moment Passes
It’s helpful to visualise how you’ll feel once the moment is over. Whether it’s calm, proud, or relieved, imagining this positive outcome can help keep your focus on the end result rather than the anxiety leading up to it.
Speak to Yourself Like Someone Who Loves You Would
The way you speak to yourself in moments of fear matters. Be kind to yourself. Self-compassion goes a long way in building confidence. Imagine the words of encouragement you’d offer a loved one and apply those to yourself.
Showing Up Despite the Fear
Remember, bravery isn’t about waiting for the fear to disappear; it’s about showing up despite it. You don’t need to have all the answers, nor do you need to be 100% certain of your success. What matters is that you’re there, doing the work, facing the unknown with courage. Save
Take a moment to recognise the courage you’ve already shown in the face of uncertainty. It’s not about making the fear go away – it’s about showing up anyway.
Feeling inspired?
If you’re ready to build lasting confidence and embrace the unknown with ease, I invite you to explore how we can work together. Whether you’re preparing for a big presentation or navigating life’s most challenging moments, my coaching is here to support you in both the how and the why. Let’s work together to help you show up confidently, no matter what.
Key Takeaways:
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Confidence is about trust, not certainty.
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Managing energy (mental and physical) helps you show up, even when nervous.
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You’re already being brave by simply showing up – honour that courage.
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Focus on what you can control, be kind to yourself, and visualise success.
If you’re ready to dive deeper into confidence coaching, feel free to get in touch or browse my services on www.annettesloly.com.